There are countless sayings and aphorisms, a wide variety of viewpoints, arguments, and questions about this unique feeling, this great mystery and motivator.
Given that we are all completely different, we have our own ideas about the feelings we experience… Many psychologists express the view that love lasts three years… This is often due to the fact that when forming a couple, lovers adapt to each other, learn to listen and understand. Their relationship is connected not only by sex, but also by everyday life, obligations, a range of intellectual and emotional manifestations with a spark in their experiences. Nevertheless, for some, love can last a lifetime, and for others, a week.
And here lies the difference in the awareness of one’s feelings. A person with a dominant inner child may experience difficulties in love, as their feelings are immature and do not have a solid foundation in their own beliefs and views. They may be capricious in their demands on their partner, monitor them, control their likes, etc. The partner is perceived as property, as a toy to which they are emotionally attached.
A person with a dominant inner parent will take care of their partner, sometimes excessively, “rescue” them, and even sacrifice themselves for their loved one. In this case, distorted behavior patterns are also possible, suffocating the partner.
A person with a mature outlook understands that love is a deep feeling that is meant to improve oneself and the world, to fill oneself with new emotional experiences and resources, but at the same time to be aware of and respect the boundaries of one’s beloved, the cause-and-effect relationships in relationships, the ability to build constructive dialogue, and maintain a sense of self-worth.
Any feeling or emotional state is valuable to each person and is a path to self-knowledge.
In fact, the value of any emotional state lies in the fact that through such experiences and states, a person matures and grows. True love has a creative meaning. And through this state, a person learns to love not only another person, but also themselves.
